No Kids No Legacy...

So being a 30 something woman, married for just over 3 years now, a question I get asked a lot is "when are you having children", now I know there are many women out there who dread this question. I on the other hand am ok with being asked this, my answer which I firmly believe in, is simple, I will have kids when God wants me to and it fulfills his amazing plan for my life.

Although I'm patiently waiting for when that happens, the other night I was thinking. Since I don't have any kids as yet, does this mean I don't have a legacy to leave behind?

Heavy thought I know, then I remembered a great woman who was such a driving force in my life.

She was my aunt who was always so busy taking care of everyone that she didn't marry or have any kids. Although we were virtually her kids by association.

Whenever I think of her, I remember how kind she was, always helping others, always sharing even though she may not have had much.

She was fierce and resilient, motivating and passionate. Full of life and never backed down from a challenge. She took what life threw at her and she made the most of it, she taught us all to do the same.

Sadly she passed away 17 years ago and now thinking of her assures me that even without any kids, I can still leave behind a legacy infact I  have a responsibility to leave behind a great one.

It's a good thing to be known as someone who made a success of your life but is that your legacy? I think not

Your legacy is the way you make people feel, the knowledge you impart onto others. The helping hands you offer to those in need. The smiles you leave on people's faces when they think of you and the ability to inspire people to leave a legacy of their own.

Your legacy is the space you leave behind that no one can fill.

So here's to living a life today that your future self will be proud of♥️

Love Yourself

So it's officially the "month of love", I thought it would be only fitting that my first post for this month focuses on the theme of LOVE.

This post is on something that I feel is very important, Self Love.

For me Self Love is simply put as loving your self. Sounds easy enough but  sometimes it can be a little hard.

We've all had many experiences in life, not even romantic ones that can affect how we love ourselves. Often how we love ourselves also affects how others love us.

Self love for me is taking care of one's self. It's not compromising on what makes YOU happy.

Practicing self love can be as easy as just asking yourself a few questions:

• Am I happy
• What can I do to make me happy
• Does this have a positive impact on my life

Spending time with yourself, reading and journalling can also help you on this journey.

Self love is a continuous cycle, it shouldn't be altered by others views of you. You have to be honest with yourself and if there is something about you that you don't love, then what about a plan on changing that. Self love is action, not only words.

When you are at a point where you truly love yourself (not to be confused with narcissism), you will find it harder to accept anything less that what you truly deserve in this world. You will begin to question anything and anyone that makes you feel less than the awesome, rockstar that you are and you will also weed out anything or anyone that doesn't add value to your life. Sometimes you might find yourself in a smaller social circle but that just might be what you need to maintain a positive, happy you.

You can also practice daily affirmations which can help set the tone for your day ahead and remind you of just how special you are.  

I've included some below, but you can make your own list if you like.

Is there something that you practice along the lines of SelfLove, please share with us below.